LETTER TO GOD

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DEAR GOD

 And I know you are busy, but I just need a few minutes of your time.

Your precious time, spent listening to us every day.

Listening to us whine and complain about every little thing.

In this ever changing world, a world once so beautiful, some believed it to be heaven, we question your actions, doubt your power, demand to have more than our neighbour, and cry when we get what we wanted, because it’s still never enough.

We sit back with folded arms when your world is falling apart, being destroyed by those who hunger for power. We watch as buildings come crumbling down, homes are burnt to the ground, faces of children begging for mercy. And that’s the only time we thank you God. “We thank you God, that it’s not happening to us, Thank you God for protecting us, thank you God it’s not my child, thank you God it’s happening in another country”,,, and then we switch channels and go back to our lives. Lives  we find so boring, because we think we have so little.

How do you put up with us, GOD ?

 God, your name is AL – GHAFFAR –

“The all forgiving, the absolver, the veiler of sins and faults, the most protecting one.”

“The one who accepts repentance and veils or forgives our faults and sins, time and time again. The one who sets us free from guilt and shame of our sins and faults, such that we may discover inner harmony and peace”

“The one who can set aright or transform wrong deeds and change them into what become good deeds”

I write to you God, to ask you to forgive us for our actions, for being ungrateful and selfish. Forgive us for only thinking about ourselves.

Create in us such compassion, God, so our hearts become softened by seeing the plight of others, and that our eyes are cleared of short sightedness and we learn to appreciate what we already have.

 

From

your humble human

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Lies and other weird stuff Indian parents told !!!!

 

  • On a long trip…

“we are almost there”,, (we were ‘almost’ there like two hours ago)

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  • ‘be grateful and eat all your food, other kids around the world are starving” (still trying to figure out how I helped stop world starvation by eating all my food)

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  • “Don’t swallow the seeds or else a water melon/orange/nartjie, etc will grow in your stomach” (I was terrified of this every time I had a stomach ache, picturing tiny branches growing out of my belly button)

 

  • “Babies came from Aeroplanes”  (no wonder we ran outside every time we heard an Aeroplane, in the hope of seeing a baby ‘delivered’)

 

  • If you cross over someone lying on the floor, that person will stop growing.

 

  • “Do that one more time and you are going to boarding school” (20 more times, and u still here)

 

  • “Cracking knuckles is bad luck, you are calling the devil” (actually cracking knuckles is healthy for your bones)

 

  • “The park is closing, we have to go”

 

  • “We’ll see”  (which Loosely translated means ‘NEVA’)

 

  • “Keep making funny faces, and your face will get stuck that way” (mmmmm, the no.1 reason for self esteem issues)

 

  • “Stop swinging your legs, it’s bad luck” (here’s that ‘bad luck’ line again)

 

  • “Injections don’t hurt at all” (ya right, only until u see that scary looking school nurse with that scary looking injection in her hand, you feel the pain before you even get the injection)

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  • “7 years bad luck if you break that mirror” (okay so 7 years multiplied by all the other mirrors I broke in my childhood….ohhhhh ohhhkay, that explains life, lemons, bills, taxes, etc etc)

 

  • “Do that ONE more time and you’ll see what I’ll do to you”……. (how come we never caught up with this…because there were definitely more times we did what we were not supposed to do,,,,and nothing happened, but still, we were terrified of those words)

 

  • Your tongue is going to get black If you lie (not for any other reason like, debris, bacteria and other organisms collecting on the papillae which results in discoloration….Noooooo, it’s black because you told a lie).

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  • Wait until your father gets home, you’ll see…. (no other words were more terrifying than that…..nothing ever happened,,but we behaved because we didn’t want to ‘see’ what happens when our father gets home)

 

  • When you hurt yourself:

White mums “aww sorry honey, let mummy kiss it better for you”

Indian mums “good, carry on jumping like one Bandar (monkey), you’ll learn”

 

  • And WHY did Indian parents always include what you asked for in their scolding: ME: “Mum, can I go to the class party on Saturday?”                          MUM: “Class party? what class party? Go to your room and go make nice class party there by cleaning up that mess…..(and then mumbles under her breath)  mmmmphh, gone too big to go class party…wait till your father comes home!!!”

        

  • Nobody knows worse pain than when your mother brushed your hair and you kept moving around….and if she was angry with your father, then you really had it.. (death by ‘brush strokes)

 

  • When I was your age…… (that age old adage…..will it ever get old.

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  • As for Wooden spoons, bleh….. that was for sissies…the real pain was when you caught it with the Indian ‘champal’ (slippers)naija_beating_2

 

 

JOB SHADOWING

JOB SHADOWING IS A UNIQUE TECHNIQUE/IDEA/TOOL GIVEN TO YOU TO OBSERVE SOMEONE IN THEIR WORKPLACE.

AS THE NAME SUGGESTS, YOU GET TO SHADOW SOMEONE IN A PARTICULAR CAREER THAT YOU THINK YOU WOULD BE INTERESTED IN. THIS COULD LAST FOR A DAY, WEEK OR EVEN LONGER. THE PURPOSE IS TO EXPOSE YOU TO THE ACTUAL NITTY GRITTY, BEHIND THE SCENES, TRUE FACE OF WHAT YOU THINK YOUR CAREER MAY LOOK LIKE.

HIGH SCHOOL GRADUATES  ARE SOMETIMES INSPIRED BY WHAT THEY SEE ON TV, AND DEVELOP A MIND SET ABOUT A CERTAIN CAREER THAT THEY THINK WOULD BE PERFECT, BUT IN ACTUAL FACT TURNS OUT TO BE THE OPPOSITE, AND THEY SPEND YEARS STUDYING AND THEN FIND THEMSELVES IN A CAREER THAT THEY HATE.

TO AVOID DISAPPOINTMENT AND MORE IMPORTANTLY A HUGE CAREER SHOCK WHEN YOU ACTUALLY ENTER INTO YOUR CHOSEN FIELD, I HIGHLY RECOMMEND JOB SHADOWING.

WHILE THIS IS NOT A NEW CONCEPT, IT IS OFTEN OVERLOOKED OR IGNORED. I FEEL THAT MORE FOCUS SHOULD BE GIVEN TO THIS, AND HIGH SCHOOL STUDENTS SHOULD BE MORE EXPOSED TO THE VAST AMOUNT OF CAREERS OUT THERE.

IN SOME SOCIETIES BEING A DOCTOR OR A LAWYER ARE THE ONLY TWO ‘GOOD’ CAREERS, WHICH WILL ‘EARN YOU RESPECT AND SUCCESS’…THIS IS NOT TRUE AND MOST STUDENTS FEEL LIKE THEY WILL LET THEIR PARENTS DOWN IF THEY ARE UNABLE TO ACCOMPLISH THIS.

A SUCCESSFUL CAREER IS ONE WHERE YOU ARE HAPPY TO GO TO WORK AND DO WHAT YOU LOVE.

AS THE 2017 MATRICULANTS PREPARE FOR THEIR FINAL EXAMINATION, MANY ARE STILL DOUBTFUL ABOUT THEIR FIELD OF STUDY NEXT YEAR. I WISH THEM LUCK AND STRENGTH DURING THIS STRESSFUL TIME AND I WOULD ADVISE CAREFUL PLANNING AND CONSIDERATION REGARDING CAREER CHOICES WHEN APPLYING TO UNIVERSITY.

 

YOU ARE A RACIST !!!

So, I was shopping in Potchefstroom the other day,…

A beautiful town in the North West Province, predominantly white… founded by the Voortrekkers in the 1800’s.

Just shopping at one of the Retail stores, when I carelessly bumped into an old white woman. It was totally my fault, I was not paying attention and by accident hit the trolley into her foot…

I still can’t believe what happened next…this lady, turns to me and says,

‘it’s okay sweetheart’ and gives me the biggest smile ever.

I apologised and we went our separate ways, still a bit dazed and wondering how this situation didn’t end up on Facebook.

My only regret is that there was no video footage of this incident. I wonder if that video would’ve went viral or if people would’ve applauded the woman for being so ‘Unracist’.

I also had an incident at a spice shop a few months ago, where this Indian guy threw my bank card on the counter and slammed my grocery bag down, almost throwing it to the floor, which resulted in unkind words being exchanged between himself and my husband…was he being racist? Oh but wait a second, I’m also indian, so which category do I file him under… racist? Sexist? Rude? Or just plain arrogant?

In South Africa we tend to use the past as an excuse to paint everyone with the same brush.

No, I’m not saying there are no racists in this country, but it’s not limited to white, black, Indian or Coloured. Every race has racists… this does not make the WHOLE race to be racist.

Racism is not an inherent trait, we are not born with it, we CHOOSE to become Racists. 

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The word Racism, to me, is just a clutch for most people. It’s the quickest way to get the fastest attention.

 

A white man is not a racist because he has an argument with you at a restaurant. If he was a true racist, he would not even share the same air space as you.

A black man is not a racist because he is fighting for his rightful place in this country, if he was a racist, he would not be working side by side with you in the same workplace.

This word is being used loosely and for all the wrong reasons.

These days people are afraid to say ‘bless you’ when you sneeze, in fear of it being turned into a racist slur.

Stop the viral videos, Stop the cussing and name calling. Stop Labelling people.

Put your phones away when someone falls, and extend your hands to help them up. the lady at the Menlyn Mall, who was inappropriately dressed, should’ve been offered a jacket to cover up, not taunted and laughed at. People commented about her lack of morals…where are THEIR morals?

We are always ready to expose the faults of others, yet our faults are easily overlooked.

 “Whoever conceals the faults of another, Allah will conceal his faults in this life and the Hereafter.”

Not everything is a joke, and not everything is about colour.

 

 

HOW TO D.I.Y

 

(DESTROY IT YOURSELF)

“IF YOU ASK A MAN TO FIX SOMETHING, HE WILL FIX IT.

YOU DON’T HAVE TO KEEP REMINDING HIM EVERY SIX MONTHS”

 

Too often men are judged for their poor “handyman skills”, or a lack thereof.

It’s about time we give them some credit and acknowledge their hard work, even if it does take them 6 months to complete a job….

As part of my “random act of kindness”, I decided to put my fears aside and let my husband complete a few jobs around the house. So I decided to ignore that little nagging voice in my head, popped a few Xanax, and a few minutes later, I bravely handed over the screwdriver and hammer to my husband.

the first task to be completed successfully was my shower, which was out of order for a few months now, but by the end of the day, it was looking as good as new.

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My washing machine was fixed in a jiffy….and it took only 5 hours for emergency services to get my husband’s head unstuck…

 

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On the bright side, The electricity is back on,diy

 

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 And best of all, I have my own hot tub now…isn’t it amazing…and I didn’t even have to wait six months..

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So ladies, stop doubting your man, and give him a chance to destroy it….oops..i mean, DO IT HIMSELF..

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“A son is a son only until he gets a wife, a daughter is a daughter for the rest of her life”

My 11 year old recently made a comment that made me laugh, but also got me thinking. It was said in naivety and meant from the bottom of her heart.

She said, “mom, when you get old, I want to be the one to push you around in the wheelchair, and I’m never going to give my sister a chance”..I laughed at her innocence, especially since it was said with such conviction. At that moment I had mixed feelings of sadness and happiness. Sadness that I might be wheelchair bound in the future, and happiness, that my daughter will not abandon me in that state.

Daughters truly are a gift to their parents, and this is proven over and over with the passing of time. daughters will stand up to the world for their parents when everyone else remains seated.

I recently found a truly inspiring piece that was dedicated to all daughters, it goes something like this…..

 

“A couple made a deal the night of their Marriage to NOT open the door of their room to anybody who comes knocking in the morning for any reason!
In the morning the parents of the husband came & knocked on the door, the husband & the wife were looking at each other & as they agreed before, they didn’t open the door. 
After a while the parents of the bride came knocking at the door to check on them, the couple were looking at each other, then the bride dropped a tear & started crying she said: “I cannot keep them knocking & not open the door, I miss them already” 
The husband didn’t say anything & he let her open the door for her parents.

Years & years passed & the couple had 5 children, the first ones were boys & the 5th was a little girl, when she was born the father was extremely happy that Almighty blessed him with her, & he threw a Huge Party for her in Grand style, people were so amazed with his joy & his happiness that they asked him, why are you so happy with her more than you were before with her older brothers?  
He answered simply:

 “She is the one who will open the door for me”

 

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ONE LAST ‘TALK’

To my daughter

A few life lessons as you prepare to leave home…

First on the list and maybe one of the most important of all:

  • Don’t be afraid of the world….be CAUTIOUS, but NEVER afraid
  • Always wear your seatbelt (well, not ALWAYS,,only when you are in a vehicle, obviously)
  • Contrary to what I always nagged you about ,,,you CAN actually wear un-ironed jeans…nothing superstitious or irrational will happen to you…
  • I have to tell you the truth…there WAS no ‘sink fairy’ —– if you use dishes, you have to wash them yourself… so, I would advise you not to pile up the dishes and wait for it to magically disappear, because it ain’t going anywhere.
  • Cook extra food, leftovers can be frozen… recent studies have proved that eating leftover food does not kill you…(btw, there was no magic cooking machine either,,,)
  • You don’t have to take EVERY piece of advice you get from EVERY person (well, except if it’s from your mother)…not ALL advice is necessarily good for you
  • Going to university does not automatically grant you your freedom…the degree in your hand after 4 years does
  • Friends are important, but only true friendship will stop you from staying out all night…choose your friends carefully
  • SLEEP (I can’t believe I’m saying this)…Sleep when you are tired…no need to pull an all – nighter hours before an exam… what you couldn’t study 3 weeks earlier is definitely not going to be miraculously embedded into your brain overnight… no matter how much ‘dragon’ and ‘red bull’ you may consume.
  • NEVER get into a car with a driver you are not familiar with.
  • If you didn’t open the can or bottle yourself, DO NOT DRINK FROM IT..(and in ‘bottle’,,,I mean, cooldrink, ice tea, milk)
  • Don’t let past fears stand in the way of your future…life happens, events occur, mistakes are forgotten, and if it didn’t kill you, it definitely made you stronger.
  • Boys are abundant, but YOUTH happens only once…no repeats…Choose wisely
  • When you feel DEPRESSED just remember,  It’s only a TEST, Kalima is the BEST…

 

ExamSTRESSation

You know it’s exam time again, when you start feeling cranky, irritable, moody, confused, weepy… you start having sleepless nights, heart palpitations, mild chest pains, and sweaty palms as you get closer to the exam. And that’s just us, the Parents….

 

The student, on the other hand,,,well, what can I say? Particularly the one who resides in our house. There doesn’t seem to be a need of urgency or any kind of stress. Things seem to be a bit too calm. If there was an exam for social (media) studies, I’m quite convinced my child will ace that paper.

However, immediately after the exam, the faith and prayer sessions in my house become so strong, you would be easily convinced that you entered a holy shrine.

Suddenly the student becomes alert, almost as if he has been shaken awake from a deep sleep. The urge to go through notes and text books more thoroughly becomes a number one priority…something that should’ve been done prior to the exam.

Hoping against hope that the teacher is too stressed and doesn’t notice the part where you left out an entire chapter…or maybe the teacher is kind enough to issue marks for every single full stop, comma and correct spelling of your name.

So unless you are sure your guardian angel is going to make a miraculous appearance and reveal all the answers to you on the day you write your exam, I would suggest, you stick to your study schedule, don’t miss a day and just remain consistent.images

Most importantly, if you try your best and still fail, it’s not failure, it’s just a setback.

Although passing an exam is the most euphoric feeling in the world, failure is DEFINITELY not the end of the world….it’s only “a stepping stone to success”

 

 “Do your best, and God will take care of the rest”…(as long as you really DO your best)

 

Good luck

THE PUN TIMES – 23 Sept 2016

THE PUN TIMES 

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 22 Sept 2016

In the Times today

BREAKING NEWS !

Fire breaks out in Shoe Factory west of the city, thousands of Soles were lost. The community has shown their support every step of the way. Further steps are being taken to apprehend the suspects. Authorities have confirmed that they are hot on the heels of the suspected arsonists.

Meanwhile , on Sunday evening, a 35 Year old man accidently swallowed food colouring. Doctors have confirmed that he is in a stable condition, but the man says  he feels like he has dyed a little bit on the inside.

Further North of Johannesburg, a construction worker was involved in a freak accident over the weekend, where the entire left side of his body was cut off, but he’s believed to be all right now…

In more pressing matters, the brain transplant of a 40 year old woman which was scheduled for this Wednesday was suddenly called off, It appears the woman changed her mind.

And closer to home, Protestors take to the street armed with cans of soda, which they hurled at pedestrians. Police say they were thankful it was a soft drink, or matters could’ve been much worse.

Meanwhile the community is in shock over the arrest of two kids yesterday by police. One was drinking battery acid and the other was was eating fireworks. The police charged one and let the other one off.

Further afield in the Cape, a Man was arrested ealier today after he stole a clock from a local store and tried to eat it. Authorities say it was a waste of time to detain him. Angry Shop owner says he wont wait another second for justice to be served.

Meanwhile, a Calendar factory admits to firing employee, after he took a day off.  If taken to court, he may get 6 months.

Moving onto sports news,

Local Soccer midfielder wonders why the soccer ball was getting bigger, and then it hit him.

He had to be carried off the field, but was not happy. he said he felt side lined.

In other news making headlines

Kite manufacturers have designed a stringless kite for the youth of today, but sponsors are adamant that their idea won’t fly.

And to wrap up.

A local businessman tried to sell a recently published book titled “TOP TEN PUNS TO MAKE YOU LAUGH”,

But sadly No pun in ten did.

 

MY DAY JOB VS MY DREAM JOB

I’m using my day job to save up to buy an Island,,,,

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I have the most amazing job. I get to work a little before 9 every day, my coffee is waiting on my desk (my desk, by the way, is in front of a huge glass window facing the most awesome view) My work related emails have already been answered to by my assistant, only personal emails await me, skype is ready and on the go. I have a lunch date scheduled with my bestie, after which, an extended break to do a bit of shopping and then back to the office. More email (personal stuff)…after an hour of laughter (brought on by the personal email)… I need to really take a break.

I Take a 15 minute chat break in the break room, where I meet other hard working colleagues, and where we are able to share the latest tv series watched.

I Get back to my office, and I…

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