My 11 year old recently made a comment that made me laugh, but also got me thinking. It was said in naivety and meant from the bottom of her heart.
She said, “mom, when you get old, I want to be the one to push you around in the wheelchair, and I’m never going to give my sister a chance”..I laughed at her innocence, especially since it was said with such conviction. At that moment I had mixed feelings of sadness and happiness. Sadness that I might be wheelchair bound in the future, and happiness, that my daughter will not abandon me in that state.
Daughters truly are a gift to their parents, and this is proven over and over with the passing of time. daughters will stand up to the world for their parents when everyone else remains seated.
I recently found a truly inspiring piece that was dedicated to all daughters, it goes something like this…..
“A couple made a deal the night of their Marriage to NOT open the door of their room to anybody who comes knocking in the morning for any reason!
In the morning the parents of the husband came & knocked on the door, the husband & the wife were looking at each other & as they agreed before, they didn’t open the door.
After a while the parents of the bride came knocking at the door to check on them, the couple were looking at each other, then the bride dropped a tear & started crying she said: “I cannot keep them knocking & not open the door, I miss them already”
The husband didn’t say anything & he let her open the door for her parents.
Years & years passed & the couple had 5 children, the first ones were boys & the 5th was a little girl, when she was born the father was extremely happy that Almighty blessed him with her, & he threw a Huge Party for her in Grand style, people were so amazed with his joy & his happiness that they asked him, why are you so happy with her more than you were before with her older brothers?
He answered simply:
“She is the one who will open the door for me”
To my daughter
A few life lessons as you prepare to leave home…
First on the list and maybe one of the most important of all:
- Don’t be afraid of the world….be CAUTIOUS, but NEVER afraid
- Always wear your seatbelt (well, not ALWAYS,,only when you are in a vehicle, obviously)
- Contrary to what I always nagged you about ,,,you CAN actually wear un-ironed jeans…nothing superstitious or irrational will happen to you…
- I have to tell you the truth…there WAS no ‘sink fairy’ —– if you use dishes, you have to wash them yourself… so, I would advise you not to pile up the dishes and wait for it to magically disappear, because it ain’t going anywhere.
- Cook extra food, leftovers can be frozen… recent studies have proved that eating leftover food does not kill you…(btw, there was no magic cooking machine either,,,)
- You don’t have to take EVERY piece of advice you get from EVERY person (well, except if it’s from your mother)…not ALL advice is necessarily good for you
- Going to university does not automatically grant you your freedom…the degree in your hand after 4 years does
- Friends are important, but only true friendship will stop you from staying out all night…choose your friends carefully
- SLEEP (I can’t believe I’m saying this)…Sleep when you are tired…no need to pull an all – nighter hours before an exam… what you couldn’t study 3 weeks earlier is definitely not going to be miraculously embedded into your brain overnight… no matter how much ‘dragon’ and ‘red bull’ you may consume.
- NEVER get into a car with a driver you are not familiar with.
- If you didn’t open the can or bottle yourself, DO NOT DRINK FROM IT..(and in ‘bottle’,,,I mean, cooldrink, ice tea, milk)
- Don’t let past fears stand in the way of your future…life happens, events occur, mistakes are forgotten, and if it didn’t kill you, it definitely made you stronger.
- Boys are abundant, but YOUTH happens only once…no repeats…Choose wisely
- When you feel DEPRESSED just remember, It’s only a TEST, Kalima is the BEST…