IT’S HARD TO SAY GOODBYE

 

God saw you were getting tired, and a cure was not meant to be

So he put his arms around you, and whispered come with me

With tearful eyes we watched you, as we saw you pass away

Although we love you deeply, we could not make you stay

Your golden heart stopped beating,

hard working hands at rest

God broke our hearts to prove to us… He only takes the best

How do you make peace with the realisation that you will never hear that person’s voice again, or hear them laugh, or just the thought of not being able to call them or send them a simple text.

We take so much for granted, and the thought of death is easiest to forget and even more easier to ignore.

We all know that Death is inevitable, yet, it still has the power to shake us out of our senses when it happens to someone close. Even when death is expected in a sick person, it comes as a blow when it actually happens.

Maybe it’s God’s way of reminding us not to take everything for granted. This life is only temporary. We enter life empty handed and we leave with nothing, except with approximately 2 metres of cotton material used as our shroud (according to Islamic procedure)

We are so busy “gathering” life’s luxuries, that we seldom remember, that our final resting place is not big enough to accommodate everything we love so much.

 

Myths and facts about grief

MYTH: The pain will go away faster if you ignore it.

Fact: Trying to ignore your pain or keep it from surfacing will only make it worse in the long run. For real healing it is necessary to face your grief and actively deal with it.

MYTH: It’s important to be “be strong” in the face of loss.

Fact: Feeling sad, frightened, or lonely is a normal reaction to loss. Crying doesn’t mean you are weak. You don’t need to “protect” your family or friends by putting on a brave front. Showing your true feelings can help them and you.

MYTH: If you don’t cry, it means you aren’t sorry about the loss.

Fact: Crying is a normal response to sadness, but it’s not the only one. Those who don’t cry may feel the pain just as deeply as others. They may simply have other ways of showing it.

MYTH: Grief should last about a year.

Fact: There is no right or wrong time frame for grieving. How long it takes can differ from person to person.

Source: Center for Grief and Healing