“THE TALK”

So, I’ve finally managed to have ‘the talk’ with my kids. It was tense and very awkward, but it had to be done. I think every parent dreads talking about it, but someday, u have to have the talk. NO not THAT one, the other one..

I’m talking about the ‘D’ Word – DEATH…

As morose or morbid as it sounds, it still needs to be addressed. I was inspired to write this after hearing about an accident that left both parents dead, survived by two young children, 8 and 10 years of age. The family is yet to decide where the children will be living and if they would need to be separated. Very ,very sad, indeed.

In my humble opinion, I feel parents should sit their kids down and have a not so intense conversation about death, and what happens if parents are not around anymore. Where would they go? Which family member will they live with? which schools they might go to, etc etc

For most people, this topic is definitely taboo. They feel that children should not be exposed to the darker side of life.

Personally speaking, I wish someone had warned me or at least prepared me for what was in store.

I lost my parents at an early age, and my brother and I had to move in with family. The disruption of our lives, the changes that were taking place so fast and the fact that we didn’t have enough time to grieve for our parents was devastating.

As a young child, you feel lost and confused. First you lose your parents, then you are taken away from everything familiar to you, your home, toys, friends, etc..

It’s amazing how resilient and understanding a young child can be. We try to shield our kids from topics like this, but, they  are much stronger than most adults.

To avoid shock, and confusion, which may lead to other issues later in life, it is best advised to sit your kids down and reassure them about their future (should you not be in it).

I think I may have made it sound more exciting than it actually is, when I told my kids that they will live with their favourite aunt if something has to happen to both of us, because, instead of looking sad and worried, (which I expected), they seemed to be more excited at the possibility of living with their cousins…and ‘hanging out’.

Which proves my point even further. Kids don’t think about the future, and won’t know how to react when something happens. This is life and we need to prepare our children for it.

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HOW TO BULLY THAT BULLY WHO WON’T STOP BULLYING

So, I’ve put super glue on the inside handle of the toilet door, smeared Vaseline on the toilet seat, replaced the hand wash with cooking oil, and splattered some on the floor for extra effect. Now I’m just going to wait patiently until I hear her shriek. Ohhh the sweet sound of revenge.

My chance to exact revenge on that big fat bully who just won’t stop bullying everyone. It’s time she had a taste of what it feels like. Maybe now she’ll understand what it feels like to be embarrassed and how it feels to be picked on every day.

Yes, it’s time to stand up to her, and her taunts, insults, snide remarks and evil, conniving ways. No more being yelled at and shoved around. THIS IS IT.

This is for all the times I had to hang my head in shame because of one of her tactics, or when she made me look incompetent when she took credit for my report, and that time, when I stupidly fell for her tricks and she laughed so hard and made sure everyone heard about it.Picture2

Well, MISSY, Not anymore, THIS IS IT.. you are going Down, You are going to regret ever picking on me, and after today, you will be so scared that you will never ever disrespect me ever again..

What’s taking her so long, where is she? I can’t wait to hear her scream for help.

It’s going to be so funny to see her trying to get the glue off her hands, or maybe they’ll have to surgically separate the door handle from her hand….and that little oil spill on the floor, is sure to send her into a little tail spin,,,, THIS IS IT…Bwahahahahahahahahaha,,,oh what fun….Picture12

 

GASP! Wait a second!! What have I done? What if the glue is so effective and they have to remove part of her hand or what if she slips on the oil and hits her head on the wash basin and has to be rushed to the emergency room, and ends up with permanent brain damage…..OMW

I race into the bathroom and clean up the ‘deadly trap’.. THIS IS NOT IT…This is not who I am..

I will not be the reason for someone else’s pain.

This revenge thing is not good. Spending hours thinking of ways to hurt the person who hurt you, will only turn you into the bully you are trying to avoid.

The only way you can exact revenge is if you become a bully yourself. I don’t think the world is ready for anymore bullies.

Every minute you waste thinking about how to take revenge on your bully only helps him become stronger and he wins.

Accept the fact that you also had a part in allowing this behaviour. So maybe it’s time to stand up and say “ENOUGH”…..Because we all have a chance to change our situations, if you don’t, then it’s not victimisation or bullying anymore, it’s self- inflicted.

 

“Nobody has the right to make you feel inferior, without your consent”Picture1