Too often we spend too much time looking at the person who has more than us, and forget to look at what’s right in front of us. We stare too long at that door and hope and pray it opens for us too. The only thing we end up feeling is emptiness and a sense of worthlessness, which creates the perfect opportunity for Depression to set in. we start neglecting what is important in life because the thought that “u’ll never catch up” to the one more fortunate, is always lurking somewhere in your mind. You tell yourself that this is all there is to life.

With open mouths and wide eyes, we continue to stare above and don’t think to look down for a second.

We only start to truly appreciate what we have, when we see what others don’t have.

Suddenly all our ‘wants’ and ‘needs’ and ‘have to haves’ don’t seem so important anymore. The ‘tiny’ four bedroom house doesn’t look too bad after all. the clothes we wear, the cars we drive and the small luxuries we enjoy becomes a blessing and we start to appreciate what we have, because, truly, as clichéd as it may sound, there are people less fortunate than us.

But how can we know this, if we are too busy looking at what we don’t have.

Look up and draw inspiration from those more fortunate, but also look down and learn to appreciate what you have right now. If we are not happy with what we have right now, we will never be happy with what we think we want in future.


“it is better to present yourself at a funeral and absent yourself from a wedding, because a funeral reminds you of what you leave behind in this world, and a wedding reminds you of worldly things ”




Great ideas to keep you from pulling your hair out

School holidays are here, time to relax and unwind……..but for most of us, it’s a time of stress and frustration, kids are always bored and can never find anything interesting to do.

Things kids could do around the house:


  • Laundry
  • Ironing
  • Cooking
  • Mow the lawn
  • Wash the car
  • Paint the house
  • Fix the roof
  • Clean out the gutters
  • Do the grocery shopping
  • Help pay the bills


But just to be safe, rather start them off with something that is less likely to get us arrested.


Here’s a few ideas that just might work:

PICNIC IN THE BACK GARDEN – let the kids pack a basket with all their favourite goodies (if you are really lucky, you can get them to pack all the left over stuff cramming the refrigerator, in this way, you don’t have to clean out the refrigerator yourself)

MOVIE DAY – close the curtains, throw some cushions and blankets on the floor, make heaps of popcorn and bring out their favourite movie. (of course there may be some negotiating at this stage if you have more than 1 kid, as to whose favourite movie will be watched first. Take a deep breath, step back, and let them handle this one.

GO CAMPING – in your living room…get them to use old sheets to make tents, some torches, and a few good ghost stories should do the trick…this should keep them going for the next 2 or 3 hours,,enough time for that much needed relaxing bath,,,,,,oh and don’t forget the marshmallows.

SCRAPBOOKING – my personal favourite. I have not met a kid who does not like glue, glitter and scissors. CAUTION: This may cause a lot of mess around the living room, so best to move them somewhere less conspicuous.


LIBRARY DAY – even if your kids don’t like reading, you’ll be surprised at how inspired they become once they enter a library. There’s also a music section which the bigger kids will enjoy. (and, as an added bonus, the library is the only place on earth where you don’t have to yell at your kids to be quiet) imagesSR2H892G

LET’S GO SHOPPING – this is a good learning experience, and it buys you some time. Let the kids make up a list for themselves, then give each one some spending money, and allow them to draw up their own budget for the day. You can then shop in peace, because your kids will be too busy trying to stay within their own budgets.

SPA DAY – A firm favourite with the girls, but your boys will also surprise you. Most guys won’t admit it, but they also love to be pampered (just don’t mention it in front of their friends). Arm them with some Mani and Pedi sets, some towels, a few nice smelling oils, and you good to go.

ARTS AND CRAFTS DAY – gather up all your pesky little baubles and beads around the house, and let your kids run wild ,(okay not literally), give them a space on the kitchen table preferably. Some string and beads is sure to keep those little fingers busy for hours.


BOARD GAMES – invite some of your kid’s friends over, bring out the monopoly, scrabble and snakes and ladders, throw in some chip and dip, and you’ll have happy kids for the rest of the day, (noisy, but happy)


Most importantly, don’t forget to have fun!!!!