“THERE ARE ONLY TWO WAYS TO HAVE THE TALLEST BUILDING IN THE CITY. EITHER BUILD THE TALLEST BUILDING, OR YOU COULD TEAR DOWN EVERYONE ELSE’S BUILDING”
People often find it easier to tear down everyone else’s building instead of building up their own.
it’s easy to talk about others in their absence. it gives one a sense of security and power for that moment.
often people with low self – esteem, and very little going on in their lives feel better about themselves when they judge other people. it gives them a false sense of security.
“when people can’t generate interesting discussions based on knowledge or ideas, gossip can rouse people’s interest. people gossip in order to hurt those whose popularity, talents, or lifestyle they envy”.
people gossip, when they don’t have much going on in their own lives, when they become envious of someone, in order to fit in, to get attention, or to feel superior. people who gossip in a group, are temporarily the group’s favourite and he/she is able to hold the attention of the group for a while. in order to stay in that clique, he/she will continuously look for new gossip to keep the group going. once they run out of stories, they tend to turn on each other.
“If you gossip TO me, you will gossip ABOUT me”…….it’s only a matter of time.
An old proverb tells the story of a person who repeated a rumor about a neighbor. Soon, the whole community had heard the rumor. Later, the person who spread the gossip learned that the rumor was untrue. He was very sorry and went to an elder in the community who had a reputation for great wisdom to seek advice. The elder told him, “Go to your home and take a feather pillow outside. Rip it open and scatter the feathers, then return to me tomorrow.” The man did as the elder had instructed.
The following day, he visited the elder. The elder said, “Go collect the feathers you scattered yesterday and bring them back to me.” The man went home and searched for the feathers, but the wind had carried them all away. Returning to the elder, he admitted, “I could find none of the feathers I scattered yesterday.” “You see,” said the elder, “it‘s easy to scatter the feathers but impossible to get them back.” So it is with gossip; it doesn’t take much to spread hurtful words, but once you do, you can never completely undo the damage. ‘http://www.becomingminimalist.com/
UNLESS YOU ARE AN ANTHROPOLOGIST, YOU SHOULD NOT BE DIGGING INTO OTHER PEOPLE’S BUSINESS.
Gossip is not gossip ONLY if you are willing to say to the person’s face, what you say about him behind his back.
so the next time you hear it from the grapevine, rather take it, stomp it, and make some grape juice…(especially if it’s extra juicy)